Fale comigo.

June 21, 2010 at 12:57 pm (Uncategorized)

In other words…. talk to me.  It’s hard to decide whether you want to avoid someone  so that you won’t say something hateful or mean, or to confront someone head-on so that they can’t avoid a problem and that it won’t build up to saying mean things at all. Either decision isn’t great, and you may be feeling unpredictable, BUT: In an argument or heated discussion, one must make these “fucked if I do, fucked if I don’t” choices. 

I know what I’d choose.

Give yourself a chance to talk.  I know we have all probably been told by some wise old person to never go to bed angry, and I really take that to heart.  What if? What if? What if? Not that you should expect the worst, but you never know.  Wouldn’t you rather risk a fight or an awkward conversation than be childish and avoid someone or give them the silent treatment for days? If you confront someone early enough, you haven’t had a chance to stew yet.  It’s still fresh enough to say what you really think, and try to solve it rather than hold a grudge for days.  Would you rather spend your time making up and fixing a problem, even if you yell and cry, or would you rather waste your time being upset and frustrated for days/weeks? 

I’d rather spend my time happy.  Say what you mean as soon as you know how you feel.  Don’t waste your time stewing in anger, when you could spend an hour in a heated debate and end up spending more of your time being free and happy, in a state of resolution.  Life is too short for the silent treatment.

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